Who are we trying to please?

I've always been one of the tallest, if not THE tallest girl in my group, so I have never actually known how it feels to have friends that are taller than me. I got a taste of that feeling this weekend, when I hung out with a friend who is significantly taller than me. I told my parents how different it felt, to look UP at someone, instead of looking DOWN, and then I said I hoped to gain several more inches or centimeters before I stop growing! Their response surprised me, because instead of saying "Oh yes, that would be great, let's hope it happens," they told me that being taller than I already am could be difficult in dating situations with men. They said that men most often look for women who are shorter than they are, because otherwise they don't feel tall, manly and protective enough!
What I'm about to say might sound paradoxical, given the fact that I am a tall person, but I've always wanted to be VERY tall. I'm not unhappy with the way I am, but there's just something about very, very tall people that I find extremely attractive. And all day I've been thinking about how unfortunate it is that a man would disregard a woman just because she is taller than him. And it brought me to this conclusion: Why try so hard to please a man? I think tall women are attractive, and if men have a complex, why should that change how I feel? Why should men's hang ups change MY tastes? Who knows, I might not even ever find the right guy for me! We should all focus on what we TRULY admire, not on what we "should" admire. Do you agree?

Tall Girl Problems well at least some guys are taller than me so maybe I won't be a lonely cat lady or maybe I will..... Darn it
Hahaha. x)


  1. Haha! This is a cute post, :] I am a teeny tiny bit above average the height of the girls here in Singapore, so yeah. BUT, I'm slim (skinny) so I look taller than I am... ><


  2. I agree with what you said in this post!! You should embrace your height because there are a lot of shorter girls (like me!) who are jealous of your height!!


  3. Carmen I can"t believe your parents d\said that. Tall is wonderful and most of the beautiful models are very tall and you should be very happy about that. Your Mom is tall and beautiful and you look like her. Loved your blog but tell your parents we don"t agree. Grandma

  4. Great post. I agree with your last sentence. And I find height attractive too, it's just nice. Also, I know how it feels to be one of the tallest (if not the tallest) in a group. :) And honestly, I love being tall. :)


  5. This is so inaccurate. I'm 5'1 and most guys I know go for tall girls. All my tall friends have had more relationships than I have, and all of them have better social lives.

    Ivana @ BookishTeens